Billy and Kum Cha Dalby

Billy and Kum Cha about 1970

Billy and Kum Cha in March 2019

Tomiko:
Visited mom and dad today. For the first time in about 4 years, I have my parents under the same roof. Grateful to the Wisconsin Veterans Home that they can be together and mom will continue her memory care for Alzheimer’s. It’s been a lot of up and down, but they both seem to have adjusted well and seem happy. Dad still has to be careful and limit his physical activity so he doesn’t overdo it, but for now he is doing better than the Dr. expected 😊. The first pic is about 50 years ago and the other was today.

First, Second and Third Generation

There was an impromptu reunion in 2009 with lots of participation. In fact all of Florence's living kids were there! But most of the spouses were hiding from the camera or missing.

Winette,Billy,Binda,John, Trinda, Niles and Darliene

And half of the third generation made it too.

Wyndi, Edna, Lorri, Ray, Ben, Gary and Mike

 It was the first time that several of the cousins had met. Was a really nice day that even included good food!

Arguing at Larry's

One time when we were living in Tucson, Niles, Mama and Orie came to visit at the same time.

Florence and Orie about 1988

We were sitting around the table playing Yahtzee. Trinda and I decided to teach them a new card game we had been playing. The play went in order around the table Mama played just before Niles. Niles caught onto the strategy quickly.  But Mama did not. Each time after she played, Niles would make a play from her results that took points from her. She began to tell Niles he was cheating. Then they started arguing.

Each time the turns came around they became more and more agitated. And they argued more and louder. I think Niles was egging her on on purpose.

Finally  I couldn't take it any more. I said, "If I wanted to listen to people argue like this I'd watch the soaps on TV! But I don't, so I don't watch them. Lets go back to playing Yahtzee."  And we did. Very little communication the rest of the evening.

When I got up about 6:30 in the morning, we had no visitors. They snuck away in the night. They had planned to leave that day anyway, but I felt bad about driving them away.

Later we heard that there was talk going around, "You can't argue at Larry's house. He won't put up with it."

I did feel a little bad, but even Larry and Binda didn't argue in front of me for several years.